How Can We Be Supportive of Transgender Family Members, Friends, or Significant Others? (SOLUTION)
Hello..i'm ain..
firstly, we should aducate ourself about transgender issues.
Second, we should be aware of our attitudes concerning people with gender-atypical appearance or behaviour.
Third, we need to use names or pronouns that are appropriate to the person's gender presentation and identity; if in doubt, ask their preference.
Four, do not make assumptions about transgender people's sexual orientation, desire for surgical or hormonal treatment, or other aspects of their identity or transition plans. if we have a reason to need to know, just ask them nicely.
Next is, do not confuse gender dysphoria with gender expression: Gender-dysphoric males may not always appear stereotypically feminine, and not all gender-variant men are gender-dysphoric; gender-dysphoric females may not always appear stereotypically masculine, and not all gender-variant women are gender-dysphoric.
Then, we need to keep lines of communication open with the transgender person in our life.
Next, get support in processing our own reactions. it can take some time to adjust to seeing someone who is transitioning in a new way. having someone close to us transition will be an adjustment and can be challenging, especially for partners, parents, and children.
Last but not least, transgender people need to seek support in dealing with their feelings. Mental health professionals and support groups for family, friends, and significant others of transgender people can be useful resources.
firstly, we should aducate ourself about transgender issues.
Second, we should be aware of our attitudes concerning people with gender-atypical appearance or behaviour.
Third, we need to use names or pronouns that are appropriate to the person's gender presentation and identity; if in doubt, ask their preference.
Four, do not make assumptions about transgender people's sexual orientation, desire for surgical or hormonal treatment, or other aspects of their identity or transition plans. if we have a reason to need to know, just ask them nicely.
Next is, do not confuse gender dysphoria with gender expression: Gender-dysphoric males may not always appear stereotypically feminine, and not all gender-variant men are gender-dysphoric; gender-dysphoric females may not always appear stereotypically masculine, and not all gender-variant women are gender-dysphoric.
Then, we need to keep lines of communication open with the transgender person in our life.
Next, get support in processing our own reactions. it can take some time to adjust to seeing someone who is transitioning in a new way. having someone close to us transition will be an adjustment and can be challenging, especially for partners, parents, and children.
Last but not least, transgender people need to seek support in dealing with their feelings. Mental health professionals and support groups for family, friends, and significant others of transgender people can be useful resources.
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i agree with some point here.yes, we shud educate ourself on transgender issue, this is possible because being understood what is transgeder is help people to understand more about transgender.we shud not blame them,but we must understand them before we judge.as i know,some of them being like that ( transgender ) not because they want it.we know they becomening transgender because of some reason,one of it is biological problem, which is the opposite hormones produce more.yes, some of transgender tend to be like that because they want to be like that.but we should understnd why they want to be like that?maybe because of the history of family backgroud,having identity crisis of ownself,peers and much more.from that, we have to analysis and try to help them.(like in the last point of this article)transgender need support.they need support from person which is close with them.and that person must understand them more than anyone else.we can't isolate them, this will make thing even worse.give them moral support to back to normal,give them advice,including material if they need it.they need to be strong to chage.so, people aroud them play the important role amongest other.
but guys..do have ur opinion about majlis agama/fatwa,goverment role?
BY,
FARHANA
hi.. i'm ain..people always wondering, what is being done about the discrimination that transgender people face?
Around the country, laws, policies and attitudes are changing, making life better for
transgender people overall. More and more employers, for example, now have policies
which ban discrimination based on gender identity; they recognize that intolerance is
bad for business. In addition, 39% of people in America (as of January 2009) are covered
by anti-discrimination laws that include gender identity.
Transgender activists around the country and in Washington, DC, are working to pass
anti-discrimination laws that provide protections for transgender people and send a
message to their communities that intolerance is not acceptable. The United States
should be a place where people can live free from discrimination and violence.
The transgender movement is part of a long line of activism as people have worked to
claim their civil rights in this country. Yet there is much work still to do. The discrimination that transgender people of color face is compounded by racism; lower income transgender people face economic challenges and classism. The work for transgender equality needs to address these critical issues as well.
hello every one...
iam fadila..
i agree with Ain.. we must help this group to avoid them from discrimination..they be trandgender not exactly bcos of social factors. some of them have a instinct to have a child and soft soul..
i think we can help them with some solution:
(1)give a freedom to them in works and achieve they carrier.
-avoid them work the negative ill like be the
prostitute and waitress in night club.
(2)right to take care a child.
-stop the discrimination to them when they want adopt child..give they right to have are child.
(3)right in medical ur operation.
-as we know, in this country,islam doctor not allowed do operations for change gender. so, most of transgender go to out country to change their gender.this give many weakness like the transgender not get much counselling be 4 and after operation bcos the counselling is important to specifie the suitable operation for them..it high cost too to make operation at outcountry. so, they must give right to do operation in this country.
that all my opinion about the solutions..
hello..ain want to share some suggestions for improving services for transgender people:
1. Welcome transgender people by getting the word out about your services and displaying
transgender-positive cues in your office. You can utilize LGBT community centers, services,
newspapers, and Internet resources to advertise your services. Posters, buttons, stickers, and literature about transgender people can demonstrate that you are transgender-friendly. You can rewrite your intake form to include “chosen name” in addition to “legal name,” as well as a third,
blank option for “sex/gender” where someone can more accurately describe their gender. And
single-use restrooms are a welcome addition for many, including transgender people.
2. Treat transgender individuals as you would want to be treated. You can show respect by
being relaxed and courteous, avoiding negative facial reactions, and by speaking to transgender clients as you would any other patient or client.
3. Remember to always refer to transgender persons by the name and pronoun that
corresponds with their gender identity. Use “she” for transgender women and “he” for
transgender men, even if you are not in the patient’s presence.
4. If you are unsure about a person’s gender identity, or how they wish to be addressed, ask
politely for clarification. It can be uncomfortable to be confused about someone’s gender. It can also feel awkward to ask someone what their gender is. However, if you let the person know that you are only trying to be respectful; your question will usually be appreciated. For instance, you can ask, “How would you like to be addressed?” “What name would you like to be called?”
“Which pronoun is appropriate?” In order to facilitate a good provider-patient relationship, it is
important not to make assumptions about the identity, beliefs, concerns, or sexual orientation of
transgender and gender non-conforming patients.
5. Establish an effective policy for addressing discriminatory comments and behavior in your office or organization. Ensure that all staff in your office or organization receives transgender cultural competency training and that there is a system for addressing inappropriate conduct.
6. Remember to keep the focus on care rather than indulging in questions out of curiosity.
In some health care situations, information about biological sex and/or hormone levels is
important for assessing risk and/or drug interactions. But in many health care situations, gender identity is irrelevant. Asking questions about one’s transgender status, if the motivation for the question is only your own curiosity and is unrelated to care, is inappropriate and can quickly
create a discriminatory environment.
7. Keep in mind that the presence of a transgender person in your treatment room is not always a “training opportunity” for other health care providers. Many transgender people
have had providers call in others to observe their bodies and the interactions between a patient and health care provider, often out of an impulse to train residents or interns. However, like in other situations where a patient has a rare or unusual finding, asking a patient’s permission is a necessary first step before inviting in a colleague or trainee. For transgender patients, in
particular, it is often important to maintain control over who sees you unclothed. Therefore,
when patients are observed without first asking their permission, it can quickly feel like an invasion of privacy and creates a barrier to respectful, competent health care.
8. It is inappropriate to ask transgender patients about their genital status if it is unrelated to their care. A person’s genital status—whether one has had surgery or not—does not determine that person’s gender for the purposes of social behavior, service provision, or legal status.
9. Never disclose a person’s transgender status to anyone who does not explicitly need the information for care. Just as you would not needlessly disclose a person’s HIV status, a person’s gender identity is not an item for gossip. Having it known that one is transgender can result in ridicule and possible violence towards that individual. If disclosure is relevant to care,
use discretion and inform the patient whenever possible.
10. Become knowledgeable about transgender health care issues. Get training, stay up to date on transgender issues, and know where to access resources.
BY AIN
owh..i think i have some opinion too..
i think majlis agama must give there (Transgender) right to recognition there in malaysian society..as we know, the muslim transgender will not accept in Malaysia. i dont think that good action..it build them blacklist. for the non-muslim transgender, there will accuse under small criminal statute. this will build many problem for them.the government must accept them in society and i think they just can only not allowed the transgender to married.
i also think that they transgender also must give a help like do a policy to help them in bussiness..most of them dont have a job and come a poor family...
BY FADILA
hello everyone.
i want to comment some of the point that u' ol discuss just now. i think the employer do a policy to protect transgender is one of the best solution. the transgender especially 'khunsa' shud be protect by the descrimination.this is because most of them ( normal person ) have prejudice about trangender in person.this policy help 2 protect them and also will give oppunitiens to transgender person to go on with their life as normal as they can, like a normal person. they also have a heart and emotion.so here, we the employee plays the important role to give them 'life' to life.prejudise and discrimination to this person ( khunsa/transvestites )make them to be worse and worse.we cant isolated them,if we isolated them maybe they will tend to influence the bad thing such as prostitude.based on my experience, i can see most of them have a very artistic sense.that why we see, most of them choose to be fashion designer, makeupp artist, florist, interior design and so on. if we are not giving them the opportunities to go on life as normal as they can, this talent is a waste!
ok, second point here, i was not very agree with the solution to ' adopt a child'. this is because, one of causes of the transgender that i talk about b4 is environmet causes which is include family.if the transgender person giving the oppurtunties to adopt a child, this child will follow the transgender person ( as a mother /father ). so i think i disagrree with this solution.
BY,
ANA
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hye guys.
i just found some humble idea for this problem solution.
firstly, we shud educate ourselves about transgender issue.this education will be discuss in one of the subject ( syllbus ) in school.the syllbus shud be discuss not very open to this issue bcoz students in school still in the learning process.being to open to discuss transgender issue will make thing worse.but the truth is, knowing nothing about transgender even worse,,that why government ( Kementerian Pelajaran ) shud educate students about transgender. this is one of the effective solution bcoz if they know ( student ) from the beggining about transgender, they can avoid to be like that ( transgender person ).and maybe if they have a friend which is transgender, they will not easily give them prejudice and discriminate the transgender person.the syllbus that i suggest is about the basic thing about transgender, so they not what exactly transgender.if we ask people around us,what is transgender?mostly of them say they dont know about the term of transgender.even me, i don't know what exactly transgender , causes and so on.understanding to this issue will help people to see abroad and out of the box.
second, i would suggest the goverment or any NGO shud be carry out the caimpagn or other effective ways to give people especially adult to understanding about transgender.they can come out with pamplets,books or documentary to discuss about this issue.this will help them to be more knowledgable about transgender issue.we should not blame the transgender person, but we must understand why they tend to be like that.sometimes its comes naturally and sometimes they want to be like that.wahtever it is, public must have the knowledge about this issue.
BY,
FARHANA
A psychological condition is considered a mental disorder only if it causes distress or disability. Many transgender people do not experience their transgender feelings and traits to be distressing or disabling, which implies that being transgender does not constitute a mental disorder per se. For these people, the significant problem is finding the resources, such as hormone treatment, surgery, and the social support they need, in order to express their gender identity and minimize discrimination. However, some transgender people do find their transgender feelings to be distressing or disabling. This is particularly true of transsexuals, who experience their gender identity as incongruent with their birth sex or with the gender role associated with that sex. This distressing feeling of incongruity is called gender dysphoria.
BY,
FARHANA
hello friend,
i wan t to ask are most of the transgender person have a distress feeling?? so how to we can solve this problem?? because i think this condition can give bad thing effect that we can not think..
Fadila
Hi friend,
here, i want to say that i really agree with ana statement that government responsibillity to help this group people..i think the big role to solve this pblem is goverment role..before this, we was here about women policy that give a help women to survive and manage they life.so, government also must do this policy to help this transpeople to help them to continued they life..they not come from a rich person..
by fadila
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